UA-114812973-16 Well Rounded: Trials 101

Trials 101

It is no mystery that we all go through trials. All of our trials are different. What might be hard for me could be the easiest thing for you and vice versa, but it is still a trial. Life is all about learning how to cope and get through the storms that are thrown at us without totally throwing our hands up and saying "I'm done".

The last two years have been some of the hardest, craziest, happiest years of my life. I grew more then any other specific time in my life. I probably also cried more and laughed more then I ever have.

Now if you saw the title and thought "FINALLY, the solution to all my trials", I hate to disappoint you and say I don't have all the answers. I am just here to offer what I've learned on how to best deal with the hard moments, come out on top and still be smiling. Now at first read you think, "Well this sounds so simple, what's the big deal Sierra?!" Let me tell you what the big deal is, these may be simple steps, but man they aren't the easiest to execute. But I promise if you do, it will be worth it!

Trials 101:

What Questions Should We Ask? And Prayer!

When a trial hits our first reaction is to ask "why?". But I'm here to tell you that there are much better questions to ask. Elder Richard G. Scott teaches in his talk "Trust in the Lord" that we should ask the following questions:

"What am I to do? What am I to learn from this experience? What am I to change? Whom am I to help? How can I remember my many blessings in times of trial? Willing sacrifice of deeply held personal desires in favor of the will of God is very hard to do. Yet, when you pray with real conviction, “Please let me know Thy will” and “May Thy will be done,” you are in the strongest position to receive the maximum help from your loving Father."

When the first thing that you do is get down on your knees immediately and pray to God you are already setting a foundation for how this trial will go. You are showing your Heavenly Father that you cannot do it without him, you are humbling yourself before him. And then you ask him the questions listed above. He will guide you through this. 

I have one recent experience that comes to my mind. I had been feeling a good amount of stress and anxiety about my life. I have a good job but I knew I wouldn't be here forever, but I had no idea what I even wanted to do. Nothing seemed to feel right. After listening to a very humbling talk about decision making I realized I need to let go of my pride or I was never going to progress in the way the Lord had planned for me. I immediately, in the middle of my living room, starting praying. Through tears I just prayed my heart out to my Heavenly Father to help me let go of my pride and for His guidance. I felt the biggest weight lifted from my shoulders. I'm not saying I have all the answers now and that my pride is gone but what I did receive from this experience was strength and peace. I know because the first step I took was turning to my Heavenly Father and asking for His help and guidance I would be able to get through this. 

How Do We See the Good?

Gratitude. It all starts with being grateful. The moment you start to be grateful for your trial or your circumstances you start to see the positive. In the beginning you might not always be grateful for what you're going through but if you just fake it till you make it you'll get there. Remember when I talked about being grateful no matter what? Well President Dieter F. Uchtdorf says it 100% better then I do:

"We can choose to be grateful, no matter what. This type of gratitude transcends whatever is happening around us. It surpasses disappointment, discouragement, and despair. It blooms just as beautifully in the icy landscape of winter as it does in the pleasant warmth of summer. When we are grateful to God in our circumstances, we can experience gentle peace in the midst of tribulation. In grief, we can still lift up our hearts in praise. In pain, we can glory in Christ’s Atonement. In the cold of bitter sorrow, we can experience the closeness and warmth of heaven’s embrace."

What an amazing promise. I always thought it was crazy talk that you could experience "peace in the midst of tribulation", but I'm here to tell you that you can. I have experienced it myself and it all started with gratitude. 

A few months ago I started to use my gratitude journal more often. Wow, what an amazing experience. When I started doing this I was in the middle of a huge storm in my life, but I didn't feel like I was because I was seeing how I was being blessed instead of just focusing on how hard life was. I was looking for God's hand.

Forget Yourself:

A little while ago I wrote about J.O.Y.. I talked about how important it is to put ourselves last. Whether or not you've read the Book of Mormon I think anyone who believes in God believes this: 

As we forget ourselves and serve God our shoulders will be given strength to carry our burdens. They won't necessarily be taken away from us but we will be given the ability to keep pushing forward. Not to mention we are always happier when we are helping others, and in the process we may be the answer to someone's prayers.  

Now I know there are many more things that can be done to help us through trials, but I 100% believe these are some of the top things that have helped me over the past two years. They have helped me feel peace in the middle of storms and strength midst very low moments in my life. They are lessons that I will continue to apply for the rest of my life. 

I don't know what adversity will occur in my life, but I do know that I want to always react in a way that will help me grow and become a better person. In a way that will help create the greatest story I can. I am so grateful for all that I've experienced, they have made me who I am today. 

What are things that you do to stay a float and happy during the hard moments?


  1. Beautiful post Sierra! I love that quote about if we could put all our problems in a circle with our friends we would happily pick back up whatever problem we are currently dealing with. Everybody is going to have hard times, but I truly believe we are given what we can handle. There are some problems out there that I would never wish to pick up, and some people might feel the same about mine!

  2. I love this post! I can't remember which apostle in the New Testament it was, but they said that they "glory in tribulation". I've always liked that and tried to think of the positives and the know that God gave us those trials for a reason.

  3. This post is amazing. Trials are inevitable but such a necessary part of life. I always say I'm grateful for trials, and people think I'm crazy, but I feel like I would be so boring if I had never gone through anything hard! Thanks for this advice and I hope this year is a little easier!

  4. I wasn't sure what Trials were to start, but now I get it! Thanks for the beautiful words!


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